Whenever you set a goal for yourself, how certain are you that you’ll actually achieve it?
One the one hand, we want to set big goals–goals we wonder if we can actually achieve.
But, on the other hand, why is it that when we set goals that scare us a little, the immediate next thought is something like, “Can I really do that?”
Sometimes we won’t even admit or declare what we REALLY want.
We do this to protect ourselves, of course.
Then, at some point along our way to reaching the goal, thoughts like this inevitably pop up:
Can I really pull this off?…
How the heck am I going to do this?…
It’s going to feel hard…
I have no idea what to do to get started…
I’m going to fail…
I don’t really want that…
Other people can do this, but I just can’t…
Don’t let these types of thoughts talk you out of moving forward. These are just normal thoughts we all have when we are about to do something we’ve never done before.
It’s part of the process of goal setting when we are willing to set goals that are bigger than what we’ve done in the past.
So, first step is proclaim a big, audacious goal that you wonder whether you can achieve. Be honest with yourself. What is it you ACTUALLY want. Make THAT your goal. Be willing to proclaim and declare that’s what you want.
For many of us, that is the hardest part.
Next, comes the “how” part. We often get so stuck in the “how” and the “I don’t know” and “I’ve never done it before” that we talk ourselves out of even trying because we just don’t know how.
That, of course, is a way to keep ourselves safe too.
Don’t let getting stuck in the how stop you. Don’t worry about the how just yet. Instead, at this stage, your job is to become certain that you can achieve what it is that you actually want in your life.
The how will come. Once you truly believe you can accomplish the goal you’ve set, you will be amazed at how many ideas you come up with about how you can make it happen.
Next step, is fail ahead of time. What that means is tell yourself all the things that are going to happen on your way to reaching your goal before they happen.
All the things that you are thinking about why you might not be able to achieve your goal–they might be true. They might happen.
But here’s what you need to know for sure: It will be impossible to avoid things like failure and rejection along your way to reaching your big, audacious goal.
There is no way to get from here to there without failure. So, accept that it’s part of the process and get going.
Instead tell yourself:
It’s going to feel hard…and you’ve done things that are hard in the past. You can do this hard thing too.
I have no idea how I’m going to do this…but I’ll figure it out. I’ll try things that won’t work at first and I’ll keep adjusting and trying again.
I’ll fail many times…that’s just part of the process of learning how to do something I’ve never done before. If I’m failing, I know what doesn’t work and I try something else. It doesn’t mean I’m a failure.
I will take longer than I planned…and I’ll keep working towards my goal until I achieve it, even if it takes longer than I want. It will be worth it.
I will hit many roadblocks and set backs along the way…and I’ll figure out how to navigate those along the way too.
Next step–start trying things that you think will work. Go all in.
Fail, try something else.
Then keep doing that until you get to the finish line. Even if it takes double the time you thought it would. Keep going.
Why? Because it’s in the pursuit of our wildest, most audacious dreams that we become the version of ourselves that can create anything we want. And that is worth everything it took to get there.
So, what is your big audacious goal? What do you really want? And who do you GET to become on your way there?
To your success,